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Note: This story is technically a story because I've uploaded it to Literotica, but really it's a completely honest guide to how to live as a man with sexual frustration in the modern age.

As ridiculous as it may seem, it's tough being a straight male these days. All of the same urges and desires exist but there are fewer and fewer opportunities to satisfy them. The current time is the depth of the 2020/2021 shelter in place orders. If I'm being honest though, the shelter in place orders are the least of my worries compared to how the dating experience has changed.

Women these days are staying single longer and then realizing at 35 years old that they had better start a family if they're going to at all. Younger women have been raised on Instagram and are obsessed with narrating their lives through strings of cute photos to harvest "likes". The women who are normal enough to date want the ideal American experience and basically just want to be stay-at-home mothers. And I'm not judging anyone over these decisions, least of all women. If they're able to pull off living with the temptation of Instagram and being single through their 30's and holding out for a well-off partner that can support them while they start a family, then more power to them.

But to put things into perspective, here's where I'm at. I'm 30 years old, I'm handsome, I'm fit, I'm smart, I'm kind but not nice, and I'm basically a 6-figure man in every way except for financially. I feel like I'm actually quite a catch, but I simply don't fit in to what the modern woman is looking for. I can't support a family financially yet even though I definitely want one. I don't want to start a family immediately after meeting someone which is basically what all the 35 year old women want. I don't have any interest in posting about my life or relationship on Instagram. And furthermore, since I'm not online I'm quite invisible to people in general.

That being said though, I've looked through peoples' feeds and the lives they feel the need to publicize aren't exactly what I'm looking for anyway. I want more. I want to live comfortably enough that I can travel and have enough time to do all the things I've always wanted to do. And the only way I know how to do that is to buckle down and invest in myself and my education and my skills until I can live that way later on. I would love it if I could find someone that would want to date and go through that experience together, but alas, in this modern age of entitlement and instant gratification I think it's just not in the cards.

Like I said though, all of the same urges and desires exist. I've tried to subdue them. I really wish I could just never be horny again, or somehow shut off that response until I have someone to take care of it for me, but I can't. Currently I have to cum about 2 to 4 times a day just to have a minimal amount of sexual satisfaction in my life. I think if I had someone I was attracted to to have sex with I would only need to cum once or twice a day, but jerking off isn't as satisfying as that so unfortunately that's how it has to be. And that brings me to what I've found to be the most viable solution. Let me qualify that actually, this is the most viable solution for guys who are at least a little bit heteroflexible.

Actually let's back up. What it really is that a man needs in his life to be fulfilled, is a woman who likes being slutty for him and enjoys letting him have his way with her. That's the trade of being in a relationship, the woman gets to use the man for security and resources and the man gets to use the woman for sex, or to put it more crassly since this is a naughty story, the man gets to use the woman as a cumdump. But the important part is that they care about each other in a way that they actually enjoy having the other use them. And it's not just about sex or cumming or release either, it's about fulfillment. There's something biologically fulfilling enough about that dynamic to a man Ankara rus escort that it's actually worth putting up with all of the drama that a woman brings to the table. The value I bring to the sexual marketplace though simply isn't in the form yet to yield me that kind of arrangement.

So if you find yourself in this situation as well then this guide is for you. The advantage of this guide is that if you try it and it's not for you then that's totally okay, no harm no foul. And if it does work for you then that's great and I hope it tides you over until you've built your life however you want it instead of having it dictated by pining after women all the time.

Step 1: Become Attractive to Women

Here's the thing, women will only be attracted to you if you don't need them. So if you're one of these SIMP guys who's paying for girls' OnlyFans accounts then you have to stop doing that. Seriously, you have to stop. Don't ever give any girl anything for nothing ever again. Being a SIMP is not only morally wrong, it's also literally bad for you and it will stunt your growth in life, so you have to stop.

In the same vein of thought, you also have to start working on yourself. Start working out even just a little bit. Start reading books. No matter how uncomfortable it may seem, just do it. Now, during this time you're probably going to be very sexually frustrated especially if you used to have a fake deluded connection to some girl on OnlyFans that literally doesn't even know you exist, and that brings us to step 2.

Step 2: Something's Gotta Give

Step 2 has to be done in tandem with step 1 because as the title suggests, something has to give. Make a Grindr account. Just make it. Post a saucy picture of yourself as your profile picture and write a description about yourself basically just being honest. Just say something like, "straight male, not sure what I'm here for yet." You can change it later as your interests evolve but just start with that.

Next, just chat with guys that message you when you're horny and jerking off. They'll ask you things like what you're into and you can ask them what they're into and just be honest. Have a good time for once and don't worry about it because there's literally no risk involved. Nobody has to know. Just give yourself a break and actually open up a little bit and just be honest.

Do that for a while and don't forget about improving yourself, that part of the equation is crucial for living the life you want to live later on. Chatting on Grindr is basically going to be the gateway drug that leads you to the sex life you actually want to have later on but it's crucial that you break the bond of needing to please and depend on women first.

Step 3: Acts of Service

The reason why step 3 is acts of service is because the situation you're in is going to leave a hunger in your psyche for something more. That something more you need to be fulfilled is being of use to someone you care about.

If we were alive in the 50's then this would be satisfied by supporting a wife and a family but that's not the way it is anymore. So you're going to have to be of some other use to tide yourself over.

What I suggest, now that you probably check your Grindr religiously every time you jerk off and probably other times as well, is that you change your description. Keep it simple and remember, this is a place you can actually be honest because no one knows who you are. By now I'm sure you've already mentioned it while chatting, but make it official and change your description to something like, "considering experimenting with guys" or add the word "bicurious" or you can really just put your cards on the table and say "want to try sucking dick."

The next thing that will happen is when you're chatting with guys while you're jerking off, you'll tell them all about how you want to suck their cocks. While you're jerking off, the thought ankara ucuz escort of being a bonafide cocksucker will make you want to edge yourself indefinitely. Don't do that necessarily though because that won't take your life to where you want it to go.

Ironically, however, you'll notice that right after you cum you're no longer interested in sucking dick. What I would encourage you to realize though is how universal this feeling is. If you have a FWB who's a girl but the two of you aren't going to date, you're not emotionally involved with each other and you're not in love, even in that case, you're going to want to get on with your day after you cum. So don't let it scare you, post-nut clarity is a universal truth. Plus keep in mind that if you suck someone's dick then you're not going to cum anyway.

A big part of that relief you feel that you didn't give in and actually go out and suck someone off though, is going to be founded in not wanting to be discovered to anyone else and even yourself that you want to suck cock. What you have to realize though is that whether you're horny or not, you do want to suck cock. And it's okay, it's really not that big of a deal. You don't even have to do it again if you don't want to. Also, it is not difficult at all to find someone who respects your discretion. The gay community is generally very sympathetic to social stigma and wanting to keep your business to yourself.

Step 4: Sucking Your First Cock

So after at least a month of torturing yourself by wanting nothing more than to worship the cum out of a deserving dick and then being relieved you didn't after you cum, you'll find that the scale does seem to tip more and more towards actually going through with it.

Before we get into what you should do, I'm going to venture a radical concept to you which is that even though you think about cock all the time, you can still be totally and completely straight. The reason for this is that the biological urge to be with a woman isn't just about sex. The urge is even more about being useful and taking care of someone and there's no more complete and faithful way of taking care of a person than sucking their dick.

Furthermore, if what you want is a proper slut to take care of you so that you can take care of her, then you'll find there's something fulfilling about being exactly that for a gay guy and enjoying what it is that you want precariously through him. As strange as that sounds, it's completely real.

So if you can't beat them, join them. It doesn't have to be forever though. If you stay on your grind then one day you'll have a slut sucking your cock every morning and until then you might as well tide yourself over by being a slut who sucks cock. And if you're not sure about this theory, then don't worry, at the end of the day if you try it and it doesn't work for you then it doesn't mean anything.

At the very least, you should not be afraid of being unaccepting of your future self. It might seem like that's possible since you're stuck here in the present but once you meet yourself in the future you'll find it's really quite impossible to be mad at yourself for sucking a cock.

The only thing you'll regret is if you catch a disease or if you get publicly outed as being a cocksucker, but I really have to emphasize just how easy and simple it is to avoid both of these outcomes.

So just give it a shot. Meet up with someone, you'll find they're more harmless than they seem. You'll also find you're much more awkward then you'd hoped. But luckily sucking cock is a great equalizer and if you do a good job of it your new friend will be eternally grateful and you may find that you're also eternally grateful or at least delightfully unchanged at all.

Step 4.5: You Can Pick As Specifically As You Like

This is just a small addition to step 4 which is that you can be as specific as ankara yabancı escort you want when you're on your hunt to suck a cock. The first cock I sucked belonged to a nerdy guy I met on my way to pick up a friend from the airport. He was a little overweight, not particularly attractive, kind of a dork, but he was clean and a good guy. He also had kind of a small cock which I enjoyed too. So we hung out and talked for a little bit and then I sucked his little cock and while I was still trying to change up my technique and pay attention to what he was liking, all of the sudden he came in my mouth and I swallowed it. I told him that it was fun and then we hung out a little more and then I went to pick up my friend.

The second cock I ever sucked belonged to a 19 year old. He was an awkward nerd also. He came over to my house with his laptop and I sucked his dick while he looked at porn. I actually wrote a success story about it on the Random Acts of Blowjob subreddit that you're welcome to look up, my user name is IAlsoLikeDick. He wrote a success story also but later removed it because he wanted to come back over with a friend and have me suck off both of them, but I just wasn't feeling it. I still completely enjoyed the experience though.

The third guy I met off Grindr after a night of drinking. He came over and I sucked his cock while we watched a movie. He came in my mouth and I swallowed it.

The fourth guy was off Grindr also. He was very slim and little but also clean and nice to hang out with. I actually kind of wish I could still get a hold of him. I sucked him off and then he sucked me off.

After that I went through a phase of meeting up with guys with the intention of them sucking me off specifically. So far I've only done that twice though. But it's kind of hot, it's amazing the power cocksucking can have in someone's life and it can be nice to appease someone else's urge.

The reason I'm bringing all this up is to illustrate the point that you can pick as specifically as you want. I didn't start doing that until recently. All of those first four cocks were basically random. Now, on the other hand, I'm currently courting a guy who is gay, clean, STD-free, and lives about 2200 feet away (thanks Grindr!). I haven't met up with him yet because our schedules haven't lined up, but the nice thing about this guy is that he's specifically turned on by meeting up with a "straight" guy who fools around with him in secret. How perfect is that?

So once our schedules line up I'm going to go over to his house and suck his cock and I'm sure it will be so satisfying. I'll get to just worship a nice hard cock and suck his balls and really treat him to a perfect blowjob experience that even fits his fantasy in addition to just being good head. Also since he's so close maybe it could be a regular thing.

Another interesting thing too about integrating this dynamic into your life is that it's all relative. What I mean by that is, maybe the idea of a girl sucking your dick turns you on. That makes perfect sense. And maybe you're not that attracted to guys, but what if they raise the sluttiness factor on what it is that they want to do.

For instance, this guy whose cock I'm going to suck really wants to lick my asshole. Honestly, that sounds pretty nice. I told him, how funny would that be if that was our thing. And he asked what, and I said, how funny would it be if I come over and suck your cock and then you stick your tongue in my ass and that was just our regular routine. I may not be attracted to guys but getting to lay back or down and have someone worship my butthole for a while sounds pretty relaxing.

The one thing I'm a little worried about is if he'll want to fuck me and if I'll let him. Mostly it sounds like it would be pretty easy and maybe feel really good. I've fucked girls in the ass before and basically if you take enough time sticking your tongue up their butthole, a well lubed cock will slip right in. And I know he's clean so what's the harm in letting him fuck me up the butt and cum in it. It may be even more satisfying than sucking his cock, who knows.

Anyway, this is where I'm at right now, I hope it helps and I'll keep you all updated. Also if you have any critiques please send me a message or write them in a comment. Thanks for reading.