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Sensual verses Disciplinary SpankingWhat is the difference between spanking (flogging or caning, etc.) of a "sensual" nature and a "disciplinary" nature?DISCIPLINARY SPANKINGDisciplinary spanking is physically punishing a submissive for unacceptable/incorrect behaviour or attitudeThe submissive MUST know that they are being disciplined, and for what. Without this knowledge, they may assume that they are receiving a sensual spanking. The mindset of the submissive is central to discipline. If they don?t know they are is being punished, how much can they learn? First, separate it physically from the location or position that they receive sensual spankings. For example - bent over a chair or table, which is NEVER used for sensual spanking or sex, unless you use some forms of sex at sometimes for discipline.This concept is comparable to that of a c***d being sent to the naughty step. Often just the instruction to go to "the chair" and wait, often leads to crying even before discipline begins, simply because the sub knows they have güvenilir bahis failed their Dom?s expectations.Secondly let the submissive know what they are being disciplined for. They must look directly into your eyes, so they can see the disappointment their Dom?s eyes, and for their Dom to look for remorse in theirs. Eyes are the most revealing part of our bodies, and the one through which most of us make the most direct connection with others.Thirdly is the description of the discipline. It is important to know, before punishment begins, exactly what the intentions are. This avoids awkward pauses in the discipline which can break the concentration of both the Dominant and the submissive. It also allows the sub to contemplate ahead of time what is going to occur and to anticipate itAnticipation is a very important part of the discipline. It's almost a doubling of the experience. Physical punishment comes next. It is important to follow the description given to the submissive, because fairness is important in all aspects türkçe bahis of the D/s relationship.If told her she will receive x number of spanks, followed by x strokes of the paddle or cane, then it is only fair that it is follow through precisely.It is not fair to try to "trick" the sub, as in requiring them to count strokes and then doing something to try to force them to lose count or make a mistake in their count, so the Dom can start over.Discipline should give no pleasure, it is merely a necessity, just as some form of discipline is necessary to teach a c***d is necessary. Parents don't get pleasure from spanking their c***dren, grounding them, or taking away privileges... but they know it's needed, to teach the c***d.The Aftermath ~ Have the submissive once again face the Dom and tell them what the error was, and how they intend to correct it.Then make them take time to contemplate what they done, why it was incorrect, how it disappointed the Dom, and how they will avoid future discipline for the same thing.For many submissive, güvenilir bahis siteleri being separated from their Dominant, either by space or by their attitude, is as important to the punishment as the physical discipline is.Note: With most pain sluts, disciplinary spanking can be completely ineffective and may well result in repeat infractions as they have got exactly what they want ~ pain and pleasure and not a discipline that will correct the behaviour.SENSUAL SPANKINGSensual spanking is so much different. Sensual spanking has a specific goal, as disciplinary spanking does, but that goal is pleasure. For some the spanking is an end in itself. Sensual/sexual gratification is gained through the physical pain received.Sensual spanking may include certain ritualistic aspects, but it can often be spontaneous. One quick, firm, LOUD slap on the behind, can be very arousing. Specific rituals or habits of sensual spanking vary so widely, among both Dominants and submissive. The purpose of sensual spanking is gratification, for both Dominant and submissive. It often includes besides spanking, paddling, flogging, use of crop or cane, etc. lots of petting and caressing of the erogenous zones, sometimes to the point of almost bringing the sub to orgasm.